Moved to San Diego! We did it!

Yes we did! (Not “yes we can” but I have to get into the mode of being in the USA).

After telling everyone we would move to San Diego we have done it.  I might add that lots of them didn’t believe we would do it.  I am not sure I did at times!  But having a Personal Development Plan is key!

Anyway, we are here and having a good time.  The weather has been on and off.  Raining a lot since I got here.

The locals say this is all the rain San Diego will get this year (but they said that yesterday also!).

I don’t believe them but it is nice of them to try to make me feel good.

So what now?

Well that is a great question! Well obviously I am sad to have left England.  My family and friends are there and I had business contacts.  However, those are not excuses to stay and they are not in my Personal Development plan either!

This has not been a mentally easy change but it also hasn’t been that hard.  Don’t get me wrong as I said I am sad to leave England but I am also really pumped about what San Diego will offer.  And that is how I have been looking at all of this.

When I was at the airport saying good bye to my parents it took all my strength to remember why I was doing this.  Nothing was going to stop me but I didn’t want it to be a unhappy thing.

I wanted the move to be happy!

Positive thinking helped.  Thinking about the adventure helped.  The possibility of meeting new people, taking on new challenges and learning cool new stuff (such as stopping at stop signs ALL the time – not so cool but I am learning it!).

For me this is a new adventure and I can make it as I want.  Kim is obviously very excited to be home.  She loves telling me how to drive (forgetting that I have been driving for 16 years), where to go, what things mean, how to pronounce places.  Have you been to Southern California?  Then you know what I mean.

I think this has actually been and will be a great lesson for me.  A lesson in believing in what I teach and tell people.  I say to people who need to change “Well you need to look at the positives in changing your life”  They know that is right but they are so fixed in their current life that any change is too hard.  For a while I have been in a steady thing.  Not really pushing past what I was doing.  My friends would say that isn’t true and that I have been really changing and doing lots of new stuff all the time but form my perspective it was all in my confort zone.

Ahh, the comfort zone.  How nice it is to be in it!

Or is it?  Well I don’t think so.

I think it is an really un nice place to be.  Why?  Well you are never really in “the comfort zone”.  You are either moving forward or back out of it.  So if you are not moving forward….you are moving back.

Do you want to be in reverse in your life?

No neither do it.  So don’t fall for that old trick.  There is no comfort zone.  There is just the place where you are about to move forward or back.  The comfort zone is not comfortable.  You just make do with what you have.

Can you be happy doing what you are doing?  Yes absolutely and that really is the goal.  Eckhart Tolle talks about this all the time.  Stop striving for the next great thing and just be.  Be at peace.

Ok more of that for another time.  This is about looking at positives.

So I would say to you.  If you are looking to make a change in your life and you are not sure if you should make that change then look at the positives of changing and not.  If the change has more positives to you then….well you have a decision to make.

That’s how I looked at this move.  There were a lot of positives to staying in England.  Friends, family and business but there were more exciting things in San Diego.

I can’t wait to make some great life changing positive things here in San Diego.

Here is a picture of Mission Bay that Kim took.  I will take some more pictures and post to this blog.

I am wishing you were all here to enjoy the sun (when it comes) and hope you have a great Halloween!

Matt