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He had been referred to me by someone else as they need some help with their marketing strategy and joint venture/affiliate process. Aside from this blog and other ventures my “day job” is working with companies to help them leverage the marketing opportunities online. This often means working with companies that have a good product but just need a more strategic approach to how they sell it.

So, there we were chatting about his business and I asked him some questions that are fairly normal. Then I made some suggestions about how they could make some changes that would bring in some money.

Well the conversation changed!

The ideas I gave him were not that amazing but he seemed amazed at them. In fact he said he would look at them right away.

The more we talked the more he seemed happy to look at them.

What is really funny about this is that I know this guy had looked at these ideas before. They were not that ground breaking and he is a clever guy so I know he would have thought of these.

So why had he not implemented them? Two answers. Fear of failing and being too busy.

Success was right under his nose but he couldn’t see it.

I think this is a common problem for many business owners. We are so focused on running the business, or managing customers, or looking after the bills that we miss some of the obvious things that could make our business amazing.

Our subconscious mind sees that we might fail and stops us from doing these things. While we are working hard doing other things we forget to stop and follow what we know could work. I often think I should do something in my business and argue myself out of it and let other things get in the way.

If you run a business I suggest you take an afternoon to really sit down and think about things you can do to make your business better. I know many will say they can’t take an afternoon but I would say to you that you can and should.

Ensure you cant be called or emailed and just sit and let your mind come up with ideas about you business. take some paper and make notes.

Now you have some ideas work on them and write down what you need to do.

You now have a plan!

I would love to know how you get on.

Matt

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There is a lot of great information about how to become successful. I have done some articles on success also. However, I think there is a challenge about this. The problem comes when you try to put MORE things into your life.

What we don’t normally talk about is things we should TAKE out of our life. This is what I talk about in this video.

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Yes it is.  It’s very likely you may never be successful.

If you don’t know how to be successful then you will never be successful.  That’s a pretty negative thought isn’t it!  Well I guess it is but I also think being honest and true to ourselves is half the challenge.  Let me explain more.

If you want to become the best in Golf you need to work very hard at it.  But, it doesn’t really matter how hard you work unless you have someone who can teach you how to be the best.  Someone who knows what it takes to be the best, what it takes to win and beat the best.

You may have an amazing talent but I can almost guarantee that talent isn’t enough on it’s own to make you be the best and become successful.

So what if you don’t have an amazing talent like Tiger Woods?  Well many would say that hard work is enough to get you through.  And that is true, hard work can “get you through” but that isn’t what we are talking about here.  We are talking about being successful and getting what you really want.  So if you don’t have a great talent at that then you need something else.

Having someone who has achieved what you want to achieve or can help you get there is vital.  I realise that to do this isn’t as easy as just finding them in your home town!  But that doesn’t really matter.  Let me give you an example.

If you have read my about page then you know that I am involved in several projects.  Most of them for business but some are for other purposes.  This blog is the example I want to use.

Before I started this blog I had never had a blog before.  I didn’t know how to install it, how to make it look like I wanted to or even how to make a post!  Some of this I learnt and some of this I asked someone for help.

The biggest challenge I had was knowing how to make it a success.  My goal is to help 1million people change their lives.  That’s a big goal but I am working towards it!  In order to make this happen I needed to know how to run a successful blog by others who have or are doing that.

I live in hertfordshire in the Uk and to my knowledge there isn’t a successful blogger that lives here!  Not that I know of anyway.  So I went online and found some bloggers who are successful and considered some of the best in the market.  Those two people are Rosalind Gardner and Yaro Starak.  You may know of them?

Both are very well known bloggers and considered very successful.  I have never actually met these two people but I have paid them money.  Rosalind has a great eBook called Super Affiliate Handbook and Yaro has a course called Blog Mastermind.  Both are excellent and if you are looking to make money online then I suggest taking a look at these.

Why did I spend money with people I hadn’t met?

Simple.  I know they are successful online and I know that they have the knowledge I need in order to make my blog a success.  In other words get my goal of helping 1 million people!  When I look at it like that the costs are very little.

It is possible I could have made the blog work well without them but I the fact is without their help I would probably never get to my goal.

And that’s the main point.  If you have a big dream or goal then you will need others to help you.  Someone who has done what you want to do or has great expertise in that topic.  Please don’t get me wrong.  I am not saying you need someone to get started!  You can start the journey anyway, but at some point you will need help.

To be frank, it has taken me a long time to find this out.  I have been involved in lots of business projects and many I thought I knew exactly what to do.  Well, I can tell you now that none of those businesses worked!  Sure I made some money in them but they were not a “success”.  They were short term.

If I had been taught or helped by someone who had done what I was trying to do then perhaps they would be making money now.

I know there is often a challenge with asking for help.  People tend not to want to show they need help but it’s a strength to realise you do.

So if you are working on a big dream or goal and things are not going like you had planned or just not working at all…..you need some help.  Hard work, yes, but you need help.

Go for your dreams and goals.

Matt

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In the article I also said that you can have all the knowledge but not the energy.  If you don’t know why you are doing something then you will probably not be successful at it.

Something I didn’t discuss in detail in that post is how Sexual energy can be used to speed you towards your goals.  Why am I only mentioning sexual energy here?  Well there are other types but sexual energy is so powerful that if you can learn to use it then it will give great results.

Sexual Energy

I guess I should  say it first; that we are all sexual beings.  It’s built into our conscious, our nature and our way of life.  We do it, we think about it.  It’s how the population continues.  It is probably one of the most natural activities we have.

There are some exceptions and challenges for many people but aside from these being sexual or having sex is part of being us.

Now I am not going to write this article about sex but this is about using the sexual energy we all have to help us achieve success.

Napoleon Hill talked about using this energy in Think and Grow Rich. He said that we have so much of it that if we knew how to use it to we could achieve amazing success.  It’s the same when people talk about not having sex before playing sports.

Specifically men talking about this!

Apparently it helps keeps the testosterone levels high so you have more energy whilst playing.  Since I am a man and have played sports all my life I can say that I have actually tested this out.  Does it make you play better?  No, it doesn’t.  Does it give you more energy?  I would have to say I think it does.  What I can say for sure is that having sex before playing certainly makes you less energetic.  Perhaps this is down to plain expense of energy rather than anything else?

If I was asked I would say that I do believe this to be true.

So how do I use energy?

Well the first think to do is know that you can control any energy you have in your body.  Positive energy can be used for positive things and negative energy can be used for positive things.  Let’s look at an example of negative energy being used for positive things.

Let’s say you have had an argument with a loved one.  You are angry and upset and lots of negative energy will be moving around your body.  Now you could use this to go mad, maybe kick something, start shouting at other people.  Get into such a bad mood that is lasts all day and you don’t think about anything other than that!

Or

You could say to yourself

“OK, I am angry and upset, why don’t I go for a run and get rid of it?”  Or “I have so much energy right now, I am going to clean the shed out”.

I know these are simple examples but they ways to use negative energy for a positive.

Once you have learnt how to use negative energy for positive results on things as simple as cleaning your house, then you can start to use that energy to do things that really make a difference to your goals and ultimately success.  If you have some projects that need doing, things that are essential to your success, you can turn that energy to do them.  You can say to yourself

“Ok, I realise I am angry, I know I am upset but I am going to use this right now to spend some time focused on my goals”

Is it easy to learn how to do this?  Honestly, not really.  It takes some time and you have to practice at it but you can do it.  You probably don’t realise but you will have done it already!  There will have been times you have used negative energy to do something positive.  Even if it was cleaning the house!

I know someone who had a terrible argument with their boss.  Actually they had a very bad relationship with their boss.  Neither the boss nor my friend were happy and this had been getting worse over about a year.  Then one day after an argument my friend quit her job.  Her boss was stunned but she had made her decision!

When my friend got home she spoke to her partner and realised she had made a knee jerk decision and now wanted to undo what she had done!  After some further thought instead of doing that she realised that she had an opportunity to go out and find a job she really wanted to do with a great boss (well at least find a job she liked!).  And that is exactly what she went out and did!  She used that negative energy to find a great job with more money and a better position.

Sexual Energy is much more

Sexual energy can give you so much more potential than negative energy.  Firstly it is positive energy.  It is there to give you a good feeling, to do something positive and natural.  They key is to learn how to use it that way and not let it turn into something negative.

You don’t have to have an argument with someone to have sexual energy (although we all know that can happen after an argument!)

It can just come to you whilst you are doing a task, whilst you are walking.  You get the picture.  The key is to be aware of this and then use that energy to go and do the tasks you know will get you towards your goals.

How do I use Sexual Energy in that way?

Once you aware you have the energy just say to yourself

“I have some sexual energy right now, I am going to focus this on my tasks rather than reacting to the energy”.

Take control of it, it’s within you and you can focus it where you want.  Perhaps you could spend an hour on your tasks before reacting to the energy (you know what I mean!).

It’s something that has to be practiced but in time you can do it.

I realise some might be reading this and thinking I have lost my marbles!  Well, that might be true but I know for a fact that this works.  The first time I heard Napoleon Hill talk about it I thought it was a nice idea but not possible.  Then when I started to practice it worked.

I had so much energy to do things it was amazing.  It’s just about knowing how to manage it all.  It’s actually good to store it up for a while and then focus on some tasks.  Your partner may also enjoy that!

Give it a go.  I would be interested to know what results you get!

To your health, wealth and happiness.

Matt

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