What is the Ego? And how your Ego is stoping you achieving what you want

Your Ego is not you. That is to say that, it isn’t the person you call yourself, me or I. So what is it? Well that depends. It depends on who you talk to.

If someone says “Oh they have an ego about it, I wouldn’t worry about asking them” What they are missing is that we all have an ego. Most of us do anyway, apart from those very enlightened people who are just being.

Unless you are able to sit on a rock in a beautiful park by a stream and meditate all day long chances are your ego is affecting what you do on a daily basis.

So then what is it?

Well it is the projected you. The projection of the person you believe yourself to be. “I am a technical person, I am a businesswoman, I am a salesperson”. Any label you choose. It goes further than that. “I am the type of person that…” Using the words “I”, “am” is ego speaking. It is the vision of who you think you are rather than the real you.

Sigmund Freud said we have the Ego – the balance mediator, Super Ego – Conscience and ID – Uncontrolled Energy.

An Ego has been created since you were born and you could say before. The lifestyle you were born into can affect your ego. “I am a white male” is also a label. It means something. It gives people something to gauge you by.

If I am not my Ego what am I then?

You are a living being. You are a consciousness of life. Of the energy and field of opportunity. A few Quantum Physicists would say “You are the consciousness that creates your world” I think that is true to a point. Really though I think I am the consciousness that creates my little bit of the world in the big field all of us are creating.

Is it possible that the world I see is entirely made up of my consciousness? Well then what about you? What about your consciousness? I believe that we are all responsible for the world we all see. What we do in our bit makes up the entire picture.

This is the “connected world”. To give you an illustration. If we were to stand together and hold up a large sheet above our heads then let it rest on us we would be connected with the sheet. The sheet is the field of possibilities and we are the consciousness that is affecting it. The other example is the the film The Matrix. At the end of that film Neo is shot and “dies”. Well he doesn’t actually die. He “wakes up” and can see the world for what it really is.  Just a field of numbers.  He sees the Agents (bad guys) as numbers also and from that moment is not affected by his Ego of what reality is. If you have not seen the film this might not make sense to you. I suggest you watch it. It is actually a great film based on some amazing concepts. I am not sure about the sequels……

The trouble with the Ego mind

The Egoic mind gives us so many of the things we don’t want in our life. Sadness, unhappiness, anger. All of these come from the Egoic mind. “I am angry because she said this to me”. Why? Why are you angry? So what if she said this or that. That is her problem right?

It is yes. Now I am sat here writing this knowing that I am not the perfect human being! I am just like the rest of them out there. I get angry, unhappy. But I know that when I am doing this it comes from the Ego not from who I really am. Life is a lot easier when you know that your feelings come from something that isn’t really you.

Let me give you an example

You are driving in your car and someone gets angry with you because you didn’t give them the right of way. They pull up next to you and shout. Now, what or who are they actually shouting at? And also who is actually shouting? Is it the person in the car, the physical body? It is the Ego that makes that person up? Or is it the real being? I would say it is the Ego of the being who is shouting at you. The real being wouldn’t shout. They wouldn’t even think to do that because they wouldn’t be thinking.

Do you see what I mean?

When your Ego is challenged that is what you feel. “She said this”, “He said that” is all coming from the Ego. If someone came to me and said “You are stupid” I would like to think that my reaction would be “Yes, sometimes I am”. They are right, sometimes I am! But what I might do is say to myself “Who is this to tell me I am stupid?”

That is my Ego speaking and using my label to defend my label. It is holding onto something that isn’t actually me.

When I used to sell software I made some good money. I was 25 and earning a lot more than any of my friends. Then I was a “software salesperson earning money” I could go out all the time, buy nice things, clothes, electrical items, toys etc. Then I started my own business and put over £100,000 into this. I then became a very un wealthy entrepreneur!

So if someone had come up to me at that point and said, “You are a terrible software sales person”. I would have probably agreed. I didn’t care. I was running my own business. In fact I didn’t care what anyone thought as I was doing something I wanted to do. But if they said that when I was earning money as a software sales guy then I would have taken offence.

The point is this. We work based on our Ego’s and what label we are.

So what can we do about it?

Well I don’t think we have to give up being something. It would be easy just to say “Ok now I am just being, I am not anything” But by saying that you are suggesting you are “anything”. So I think one of the great things we can do is just start to see where we are speaking from. Speaking from your real being or your Ego.

if you live from your real you and not your Ego it is ealier. The more you do this the easier it is. The more you find yourself acting from the real you and not your Ego. You don’t tend to get so upset or angry.

To see a great example of this just look at animals. They don’t have Ego’s. They just live for the now as a being. That is why animals love you. They don’t have an ego in the way.  If you love them they will love you. Animals feel pain like we do and share so much with us but they don’t have an Ego. Next time you look at your pet just look them in the eyes and ask them if they love you. Then tell them you love them and mean it from your heart. You will see what I mean when you do this.

If you really want to get into the Ego mind a great book to read is “Awakening to your Life’s Purpose” By Eckhart Tolle. Eckhart is one of the best authors on this subject.

How the Ego mind holds you back in achieving anything you want

If you want to achieve something in your life often you have to be different and make some changes. In order to make some changes you have to be prepared to not worry about a label.  If you worry about your label you won’t want to change anything.  You will be stuck.

Change requires you not to worry about what you are and what you want to be.  You have to let go of that and just change.  If you have a label then change is probably not going to happen.

Be free from your Ego!


What you do in the morning can change your life!

As you know I am a big fan of NOT starting your day with work or things that you have to do in the day.  Rather you do something for you.  This stops you going into the day without taking some time to think or not think I should really say!

A morning routine in your Personal Development Plan can change the way you think about yourself and the day ahead.  I know from my own personal experience that if I get on my laptop as soon as I get up then I will most likely be typing on it for a couple of hours.  I then feel stressed about what I have to do in the day.

When I get up and do some breathing, exercise, Meditation I feel relaxed and have a better understanding on what I want my day to be.

So instead of letting the day create the mindset you have for the day, you create the mindset you want for the day.

Eastern philosophy has know this for years.  That is why they meditate, do Tai Chi etc.  Why?  Well it gives your brain time to relax and enter a place where you can do something for you not all the things you have to do.

Try this for a week and see how much you change!


Personal Development and Animals?

Yes!  Personal Development and animals and important.

Part of my personal development plan is to embrace things in the world, to stop and notice myself, the environment, what is in it.  Essentially being in the present as much as possible.  As Eckhart Tolle would say “Being in the now”.

Animals are always in “The Now”.  They don’t worry about the past and the future they are just living in the moment and only thinking about that.  They have no Ego as such and what you see is the spiritual them.  Weird concept?  Not at all.

We have a cat,  Treacle.  She knows when we are feeling ill.

Do you have pets?  Then you know what I am saying.

A friend of mine runs a great blog and she wrote an amazing article about how her pets helped her get better after an addiction.  Take a look at the article here.

Animals and Recovery an invaluable gift

You see what Diane realised is that animals can feel emotion.  We can but our Ego gets in the way.  Busy Ego.

If we were just to slow our lives we would be able to feel just like animals do.  That is why you should always treat animals with grace and humility.

Part of my Personal development is to get more in touch with life.  This means getting out in Nature and just enjoying time with animals.  I love Treacle and talk to her all the time.  She is a cat and I realise that but she is also a spiritual being.

If you need some help in Spiritual aspect of your Personal Development then spend some times with animals.


Lynne McTaggart and the Zero Point Field

I did and article about the Zero Point field last week.  Well I wanted to actually show you the author of the book.  Lynne McTaggart.

Here book really has changed the way I believe things.  I actually always believed in this but couldn’t explain it or verbalise it.  What Lynne has done is shown me why.  Here is a video of her talking about the field and how it works.

What is the Zero Point field and why should you care?

The Zero Point Field is something we should all care about.  Some call it the Matrix, some call it the unified field.  I prefer the Zero Point field term because physicists have shown that is does exist.  I would even go so far as to say if you have a Personal Development plan you need to put the Zero Point Field into it.

So what are we talking about here?

Well I am no physicist but I do love to know about this sort of thing.  It pushed the boundaries of “Believe and Achieve” or “what you think about most you get”.  It takes me into thinking about how just thinking can change my life.

If any physicist is reading this then please forgive me for my incorrect terminology.  For anyone else…well you won’t know the difference!

I have just finished a book by Lynne McTaggart called “The Field”.  It is an amazing book, I mean really amazing.  What Lynne has done in this book is showed the scientific proof intertwined with the spiritual beliefs and teachings that we are all connected in a field of consciousness.

The best part about all of this is if you have read any spiritual teachings then you know that is true!  It is what these teachers have been saying for 1000’s of years.  But now, we have scientific proof.  We have evidence that can’t be fluffed away.  It’s scientifically proven!

The funny thing about this is that if you are reading this and have been following a spiritual path for a while you won’t need scientific proof.  You KNOW it is right.  But the rest of us do need some proof.

I really hate to say this but in some part of my soul, I like the fact that scientifically it has been proven.  This is because I have been brought up in the modern world and conditioned.

An example would be when having a discussion with someone about this I find it hard to get my point across using spiritual examples.  It is easy to come back with “Well that is what they believe so for them it is real”.  See what I mean? [Read more…]

Huna – Power of Healing

Do you know what HUNA is?  I dind’t until I was sent this video.  Huna is an indigenous approach to healing and spiritual development.

Deepak Chopra – A balanced life

If you are a fan of Deepak Chopra (like I am) then you know he always talks about some very deep and intense ideas.

This is a great video in which Deepak discusses how to achieve a Balanced Life and also how to find your purpose in life.

Interview with Deepak Chopra – Life After Death

As you probably are aware I am a fan of Deepak’s work.  However, he is often accused of writing books that are just for those who need an answer rather than what he really believes.  In this interview I think it gives a balanced view of him and Deepak get asks some difficult questions.