Willard F. Harley Jr
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Willard F. Harley, Jr., Ph.D. is best known as author of the internationally best selling book, His Needs, Her Needs: Building An Affair-proof Marriage. The hard-cover American edition alone has sold over one million copies, and it is has also available in paperback and sixteen foreign translations. Every year for the past twenty consecutive years more copies of this book have been sold than in each previous year.
Dr. Harley earned a Ph.D. degree in psychology from the University of California at Santa Barbara in 1967 and has been a Licensed Psychologist since 1975. For the first ten years after earning his degree, he taught psychology at both the graduate and undergraduate levels. During those years, he was also a frustrated part-time marriage counselor with little success in helping couples.
In 1973 he discovered that he was not alone in his failure to save marriages — almost everyone in the marital therapy profession were also failing. So he spent the next two years designing an entirely new approach (see How Dr. Harley Learned to Save Marriages). When his success rate climbed to over 90% in 1977, he resigned from his teaching position to counsel full-time. Over the next ten years his solo practice developed into the largest network of mental health clinics in Minnesota (thirty-two locations) with over one hundred psychiatrists, psychologists, social workers and chemical dependency counselors working with him to provided a full range of mental health services. He became the exclusive provider of mental health and chemical dependency services in ten counties, and had offices in other counties as well.
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His Needs, Her Needs
Matt says -A VERY powerful book. If you read the cover of this book it looks like a book that should only be read by couples having challenges in their relationship. Those couples should ABSOLUTELY read it but I would also say that ANYONE who wants to have a better relationship and partnership should read this book, even single people will benefit in a massive way.
Dr Harley works on the basis that we have different needs and that we can store up money or tokens in a “love bank”. The love bank is a great way to think about how to keep a relationship fresh and exciting. Harley is not unrealistic and doesn’t try and push theory based methods within this book. What he does is draw on 30 years of counseling experience to give you proven methods that can even pull the most damaged of relationships back to fruitfulness. His track record is enough to show this.
I don’t normally say things like this, but please, if you are unhappy in your relationship read this book before you make and decisions about the next step.
To sum up –Wonderful book, should be read by anyone who wants a great relationship. factual, well written and has proven strategies by someone who really does know.
Category – Relationships
