The Cab Ride – A great story about living in the present

Happy New year to you!

Sometimes I get an email that really makes me think.  You know the sort, ones that have been forwarded on to lots of people.  Often they are just rubbish but this one is pretty emotional.

Living in the present is can change your life and others.  There is a great book called “The Present By Spencer Johnson”.  I have a review of this book The Present.

Here is the story.

I arrived at the address and honked the horn. After waiting a few minutes I walked to the door and knocked.  ‘Just a minute’, answered a frail, elderly voice. I could hear something being dragged across the floor.  After a long pause, the door opened. A small woman in her 90’s stood before me. She was wearing a print dress and a pillbox hat with a veil pinned on it, like somebody out of a 1940’s movie.  By her side was a small nylon suitcase. The apartment looked as if no one had lived in it for years.  All the furniture was covered with sheets.  There were no clocks on the walls, no knickknacks or utensils on the counters.  In the corner was a cardboard box filled with photos and glassware.
‘Would you carry my bag out to the car?’ she said. I took the suitcase to the cab, then returned to assist the woman.  She took my arm and we walked slowly toward the curb.
She kept thanking me for my kindness.  ‘It’s nothing’, I told her.  ‘I just try to treat my passengers the way I would want my mother treated’.
‘Oh, you’re such a good boy’, she said. When we got in the cab, she gave me an address

and then asked, ‘Could you drive through downtown?’
‘It’s not the shortest way,’ I answered quickly.
‘Oh, I don’t mind,’ she said. ‘I’m in no hurry. I’m on my way to a hospice’.
I looked in the rear-view mirror. Her eyes were glistening.  ‘I don’t have any family left,’ she continued in a soft voice.  ‘The doctor says I don’t have very long.’  I quietly reached over and shut off the meter.  ‘What route would you like me to take?’ I asked.
For the next two hours, we drove through the city.  She showed me the building where

she had once worked as an elevator operator.  We drove through the neighborhood where she and her husband had lived when they were newlyweds. She had me pull up in front of a furniture warehouse that had once been a ballroom where she had gone dancing as a girl.
Sometimes she’d ask me to slow in front of a particular building or corner and would sit staring into the darkness, saying nothing.
As the first hint of sun was creasing the horizon, she suddenly said, ‘I’m tired. Let’s go now’.
We drove in silence to the address she had given me.  It was a low building, like a small convalescent home, with a driveway that passed under a portico.  Two orderlies came out to the cab as soon as we pulled up. They were solicitous and intent, watching her every move. They must have been expecting her.
I opened the trunk and took the small suitcase to the door.  The woman was already seated in a wheelchair.  ‘How much do I owe you?’ she asked, reaching into her purse.
‘Nothing,’ I said
‘You have to make a living,’ she answered.
‘There are other passengers,’ I responded.
Almost without thinking, I bent and gave her a hug. She held onto me tightly.
‘You gave an old woman a little moment of joy,’ she said.  ‘Thank you.’
I squeezed her hand, and then walked into the dim morning light.  Behind me, a door shut.

It was the sound of the closing of a life.
I didn’t pick up any more passengers that shift. I drove aimlessly lost in thought. For the rest of that day, I could hardly talk. What if that woman had gotten an angry driver, or one who was impatient to end his shift?  What if I had refused to take the run, or had honked once, then driven away?  On a quick review, I don’t think that I have done anything more important in my life.
We’re conditioned to think that our lives revolve around great moments.  But great moments often catch us unaware – beautifully wrapped in what others may consider a small one.

PEOPLE MAY NOT REMEMBER EXACTLY WHAT YOU DID OR WHAT YOU SAID

~BUT~

THEY WILL ALWAYS REMEMBER HOW YOU MADE THEM FEEL.

You won’t get any big surprise in 10 days if you send this to ten people.  But, you might help make the world a little kinder and more compassionate by sending it on and reminding us that often it is the random acts of kindness that most benefit all of us.

Life may not be the party we hoped for, but while we are here we might as well dance.

15 reasons why you are not successful

Hi,

There is a lot of great information about how to become successful. I have done some articles on success also. However, I think there is a challenge about this. The problem comes when you try to put MORE things into your life.

What we don’t normally talk about is things we should TAKE out of our life. This is what I talk about in this video.

Please leave a comment if you do some of these!

Mike Koenigs founder of Traffic Geyser talks about leadership

You most likely won’t know this guy unless you are in the internet marketing area but he has helped some oif the biggest names in the personal development industry build their business online.

I use his Traffic Geyser service and he provides some great content not just on making money but on self help.  Here he is talking about leadership.  It is a great video.

Who is going to be UK number 1? Is the Rage Against the Machine campaign nasty?

I know I know this is not really a personal development post!

But I wanted to write something about what people are doing in the UK.  If you don’t know what is happening let me explain.

Simon Cowell has had an artist at number one for the Christmas single.  Four years running!  This is a great achievement but many people are not happy that he is dominating the charts so much.  Especially with the sort of songs he has.

The X factor show is also a great platform for him to sell these artists to us.  Clever when you think about it.

So what is the big fuss about Rage against the Machine and Joe McElderry?

Well someone on Facebook started a campaign to get “Rage Against the Machine – Killing in the name” at number 1 rather than Jo McElderry’s song.

I am fairly indifferent to the whole thing but I have to say as a teenager I did love the Rage against the Machine song.  Joe’s song is also good but I kind of want this backlash to work.

Not in a malicious way, just because I think it is great this country is realising that if we stand together we can make a difference.  I think that we need to do more of this.  I don’t mean raging against the machine just knowing that if we think something is wrong then we can do something about it.

It doesn’t have to be a riot but it can be something powerful like this campaign. Many say it’s all a con anyway as Sony has the rights to both songs so what is the difference?

Well I guess that is a good point but I think this about people realising they have a voice.

We can do so many great things in this world if we just forget about being just a couple of people and seeing that if we feel a certain way then other people will also.  They are always people who will feel the way you do.  It’s just about finding them and working to a common positive goal.

OK, so perhaps I should tell you which download I purchased?  Well you may have guessed.  Some of the lyrics are pretty strong but I couldn’t help myself!

Matt

Rage against the machine

The lost generation

This has not much to do with Personal Development but it has a great message.

Goal Setting in 5 Minutes

Hi,

I sent a mail out to my success newsletter group about why it’s important to Goal Set now before next year.  Well I didn’t think about it that much but someone came back and asked me HOW they should goal set!

That got me thinking about what to say back.  There are so many ways to goal set it can become a challenge to learn all the method.  So I thought I should do a quick video showing how I goal set to get results in 5 minutes!

Personal Development is just Brain Washing

“Yeah, I know all about that Personal Development rubbish, it’s all just brainwashing anyway!”

Ever heard someone say this?  Perhaps to you?

Great!  You know why I think that is great?  Because I 100% agree with them!  Personal Development is just brainwashing!

Yep you heard me right.  I am saying it now, Personal Development is just brainwashing.  Ok, don’t worry I have not gone mad!

Let me be clear here, I DON”T agree that Personal Development is rubbish but I do agree it is brainwashing.  That’s exactly what is it.  It clears your brain of all the crap you have been putting into it.  All the negative, all the thoughts that keep you from achieving your goals, all the times someone has told you, you are a loser.  Every “No” you have had as a salesperson, every bad conversation that went the wrong way and upset you and the other person.

Personal Development (Self Help, Self Development) cleans it out.

Most of the people who tell you Personal Development is brainwashing don’t realise what they are saying. What many don’t know is that we are brainwashed all the time!  Just that type of brainwashing isn’t by choice.  Newspapers, TV, people, the internet etc all brainwash us all day long.

I was going to a meeting the other day and while waiting in the foyer I noticed there was big LCD screen above the receptionist.  The sound was on and I could hear it very clearly.  Do you know what they were playing on it?  The news.  It was on a news channel!

No I don’t know about you buy have you seen how those work?  All they do is have the same news on all day long.  I wondered how that receptionist felt at the end of the day.  That negative content would be going into her brain subconsciously without her even wanting it to.

As we do the activities we do on a daily basis we are constantly being given brainwashing messages.  On the radio in the car, road advertising, the newspaper you read all have messages in them.

Have you noticed how cars have the name of the brand stuck on them?  Why is that?  It’s so we know what it is so we can go and buy it!  They don’t do it to make the car look good.  Normally the badge looks odd, not really in keeping with the car.

Even seeing people in different clothes can give us messages about what we might want to buy.

Don’t be fooled by the negative

So many people I have met think that the entire Personal Development industry is a rip off.  They say that people who write self help books are just looking to make a profit.  Again I would agree with that.  They are looking to make a profit, like any good business person but large share of them are also looking to help people.

Sure, if they write a good book and it sells they will make a lot of money.  Just ask Jack Canfield.

But so what?  If a book helps me then I am very happy to buy it.  The same would go for a text book on any subject.

If you find yourself in conversation with someone about this who believes that Personal Development is a big con then I suggest you walk away.  They are not really interested to hear what you have to say and just want to tell you what they “know”.  If you really do have talk to them just ask them this: –

“Have you ever read a book (Listened to CD etc) that has shown you how to do something?  Maybe a text book at school?”  They may not be honest and say no.  But you know as well as they do that they have read a book that has helped them.  That then is a Personal Development book.

As I said I wouldn’t bother even doing this but if you have to then it can help.

Remember, this is your life and you can read what you like!

Matt – Personal Development Fan

Now is the time to set goals for the New Year

Christmas is almost here and it is getting cold in the UK!

Now now is the best time to set your goals for the New Year.  I know many of us are busy enough without having to worry about setting goals but I think it’s key you do them now rather than in the new year.

Sitting down now and planning your goals means you have a head start when the year starts.  You don’t have to worry about “what you are going to do” in the new year or think about it while you should be enjoying yourself.

There is also a very powerful benefit to doing this now that is not totally obvious

If you get your goals ready for next year you are giving your subconscious things to think about.  It will work on your goals while you are having fun over Christmas.  This is why it’s so important to set your goals now.

It will start to make plans or ideas that you may never have thought of before.

Also setting goals now means you don’t have to try and fit it in next year.  Let’s be frank, once the year starts our lives take over again.  We don’t have enough time and it’s a challenge to find the time to sit down and really think and plan.

Why make it so hard?

If you do your goals now, you can have a great time over Christmas and look forward to the new year.

Have fun.  I wish you a great Christmas.

Matt