6 Things that tell you you are in the wrong

Have you ever had that feeling that you are in the wrong?

No?

What?  Yes you have come on.  We all have.  If you are a human being then you know what I mean.  Thinking about it, our cat knows she is wrong too.  When I tell her to get down from the counter she does a quick look and gets off.  Then looks at me as if to say “What me?  Did something wrong?”

So somehow we tend to know when we are in the wrong.  But, and this is the “but” we all need to know, there are times when you don’t know you are in the wrong.

The time when we can’t see why the other person can’t see our point of view.  “What’s wrong with this person?” we often say.  Well….not much!  Sometimes it’s you!

Yes I know, that you are perfect and you don’t know how you could possibly be wrong but sometimes, well I am going to say it, you are.

Me too.

Now I am supposed to be Mr Perfect right?  I run this blog about Personal Development so I should be personally developed to never be in the wrong?  That would be awesome.  A shame then that I often find myself in the wrong.

The challenge is knowing when we are in the wrong.  How to notice it and then do something about it.  Well I am going to do another article about that but for now I wanted to write about how to see that you are in the wrong.  So the following 6 things are all little signposts that are there to let you know you are in the wrong.

1. Others don’t agree with you when you ask them what they think

This means when you ask a friend if they agree with you or the other person you are having an conversation with then don’t say!  Your friend is being kind but really you are wrong.

2. You find yourself in an argument that you are not sure how you got into

If you find yourself in an argument that you are not sure how you got into then this can mean you are in the wrong.  You might have upset the other guy and they have not taken it well.  I find most people only into an argument when you or they are in the wrong.

3. People stop listening to what you are saying

People stop if they know you are in the wrong.  WHy would you listen?

4. You find yourself defending your opinions and trying to work out how to prove your point

You should be listening to the other person rather than trying to win the conversation.  If you are doing this then you are trying to win the conversation rather than understanding the other point of view.

5. You don’t understand why they can’t see your point of view

This is a good sign that you are in the wrong.  We always think we are right but sometimes we are not!

6. You feel wrong

You know what I mean.  You just feel wrong.

So if you feel any of these signposts during a conversation, stop and think about the other person.  Have you said something to upset them, something out of context etc.  It is easy to do.

I also created the video to explain the points a bit more.

To your success – Matt