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What is the number 1 Personal Development Book?

I just want to start out by saying this is only my opinion and not the final result! So if you are reading this and don’t agree I would love to hear what book you think is the number 1.

When I came up with the title to this post I thought it was going to be really easy to choose a book.  Actually I thought this was just going to be a very quick post with my answer.  Then I started to think about it a bit more.

I realised that it might not be as easy as I had originally thought!

What to choose!

There are so many great Personal Development books out there.  Some are old classics like Think and Grow Rich and some are great new books like a John Maxwell or Anthony Robbins.

Should it be a communication book? A personality book?  The best selling book? Or perhaps the one that has impacted me the most?

I really didn’t know.  There are many GREAT books on so many different personal development niches that it started to look like I would not be able to pick just 1.

What about all the excellent Goal Setting and Mindset books?

Ok so I realised that probably the best way to answer this would be to just talk about the book that had the most impact on me.  And that books was…..

How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie.

If you have seen any of my videos then you know I am a big fan of this.

So why should I choose this book?  Well it had the greatest impact on me when I started reading these books and getting into the personal development industry.  It was the one that really made me see the world and people differently.

Actually I had a “moment” when I had just finished reading it.  It only took me a week or so to go through it and on that last day I was going out for dinner with some friends and some new people who I had not met.  I have always been able to talk to people but I don’t think I ever really felt comfortable doing so.  Or maybe it was just that I didn’t really LISTEN to them.

Anyway, that night was totally different.  All I wanted to do was listen to what they had to say.  Not just sit there and be attentive but actually LISTEN to what they said.

It was AMAZING.  It was like a new life.  Seriously I know that may sound a little exaggerated but it’s really the way I felt.

The next day some of my friends said that people had mentioned “what a nice guy your friend is” and how they enjoyed talking to me. WOW.  They enjoyed talking to me.

I wasn’t the half drunk one in the corner?

No, I was the interesting guy that they liked to talk with.  Amazing.

So, for me, this is the Best Personal Development Book.  It changed my life and it can change yours too.  You just have to apply what it says.

Real Subliminal – How Subliminal messages can be your secret to great things


When I started reading Personal Development books and listening to audios I was always really keen to find out more about the power of the subconscious. I have heard about it but didn’t really know how it works or how it helps.

Well over the last few years I have come to realise using subliminal messages is one of the best things you can do to help yourself. Let me say that again, using the power of subliminal
messages can change your life.

So how does subliminal messages work?

Well we should probably look at some examples to explain the impact these have. Television is a good one to talk about. We have all probably heard about subliminal advertising.  This is when messages are “hidden” in an advertisement.

An example would be while you are watching an advert for a holiday within the the frames of the advert would be frames of food and the name of the restaurant.  This would be advertising a restaurant.  They would only put in 1 frame every 100 or so.  This means thats that you don’t consciously “see” the ad but subconsciously you are seeing it and you start to think “You know what, I think we should go to that restaurant tonight”.

I believe that this type of advertising is no longer allowed.  But, and it’s a big but it still goes on just in a different way.

Why do all the big brands still advertise on TV?  Why do they have big ads up on the streets?  Because they want you to remember their product each time you go into a store to buy something.  What brands don’t do is advertise once and then hope you buy their product again.

Actually this is a big misunderstanding.  Many of us think that brands advertise to get NEW customers when in actual fact they are also trying to keep their existing customers!

They are trying to make our subconscious remember their brand.

If you look at breakfast adverts for low fat cereals.  Do they use an actor or actress who is overweight or considered not very attractive?  NO!  They use a very attractive, slim actress.

Even the music is designed to make us remember.  Can you think of a tune from an advert right now?  I bet you can.

Ok so we know subliminal messages work but how can they help?

Well that’s a good question.  Some of the best and original books talked about how to do this.  Napoleon Hill in Think and Grow Rich shows how you can use your subconscious to achieve what you want in life.  Maxwell Maltz in Psycho Cybernetics talks extensivly about how to use your subconscious to get what you want out of life.

Actually if you are reading this I would suggest getting a copy of both books.

We can use subliminal messages to “re programme” our minds to believe and achieve anything we want.  As both men say, you will never achieve anything unless you believe it first.

NLP – Neuro Linguistic Programming has help shape this technique to be used by many people.

When I say re programme many people ask “Does that mean Brain washing?”.  The honest answer is, yes, in a way it is.

But don’t be mistaken, we are “brain washed” each day by our environment.  What you can do is use this to help you get what you want in life.

One of the best ways to give yourself the right subliminal messages is through audio and visual.  Once you know what you want in life and what your goals are you can start to input this into your brain and let the power of your subconscious mind work for you.

What do I mean let your subconscious mind work for you?

Well this is a very powerful mechanism we have.  We really have all we need to succeed inside but often we don’t let it do what it can for us.

When I have a problem or challenge in life I tend to let my subconscious work it out for me.  Obviously there are moments when I worry about it but I try to forget it and let the solution come to me.  Normally this means thinking about the problem or challenge before I go to bed.  Most of the time the answer will come to me in the morning or later that day.

I know that sounds a little bizarre but you have probably experienced that feeling when you suddenly think of a way to do something but you were not actually thinking about the problem?  It’s the EUREKA moment and it’s probably the most powerful tool we have.

If you input subliminal messages into your brain that are supporting your goals and dreams then you are going to be helping yourself get those much sooner.  What do I mean?

Well let’s say you want to be better at speaking with people at parties or in business situations.  Maybe you are a little shy or self conscious?

If you used a subliminal messages system such as Real Subliminal you could become very confident at speaking to people.  Real Subliminal provide already created subliminal audio products.  All you do is buy and download the audio and then listen to it.  Interestingly these use a certain type of message that is hidden in the sounds of waves.  Don’t worry you can see what is on the audio before you buy it!

In the example of speaking to people the subliminal message might be “I am confident when talking to new people” or “New people find me interesting to talk to”.

This message is looped over and over so your subconscious hears this and starts to believe it.  When you are next speaking to a stranger you don’t get that same feeling you had before.  Instead you feel confident and excited to find people to talk with!

Real Subliminal have many types of messages.  I have purchased a couple and they are excellent.  This link Real Subliminal will show you the whole range.

If you have not looked into using subliminal messages to help you then I would suggest giving it a look.